Gender Roles and Homeschooling
Is homeschooling sexist? Kind of a weird question and maybe it wasn’t one of the first that popped up in your mind, but when we talk about homeschooling controversy, this is one of the topics that people are talking about.
By homeschooling are we showing our children specific gender roles that will shape them in their future lives as employers, spouses, and parents? When I was growing up, my mother always told me that I could do and be anything I wanted. I wonder if she ever had in mind that this would be giving up my career aspirations and homeschooling my children.
The debaters say we need to be aware of what we are teaching our children through homeschooling and the roles the mother and father play. Its common knowledge that when choosing to homeschool, most of the time, the mother is the one that quits her job to stay at home to be the teacher, encourager, mom, and nurse.
What does this teach our children? Maybe we like what it teaches them, maybe we don’t, but whether you are involved in this controversy or not, it’s a good question to ask yourself and think about. Read also this post about the pros and cons of homeschooling.
Will our sons grow up to think that a woman’s place is in the home? Will our daughters grow up to think they are striving only for marriage, kids, and a homeschooling lifestyle? Will our daughters grow up to think that they have unlimited potential? Will our sons be able to work with women in the workplace in a fair matter when their only example of a woman is their homeschooling mother? What are our future daughters and sons-in-law in for?
I won’t even try to take sides in this argument, but only leave you with some of the thoughts above. There are good things that can come out of some of these controversial homeschooling issues, THINKING. If anything, sometimes it brings to your mind things that you have not considered yet and good can always come out of this, no matter which “side” you choose!
Advantages Of Homeschooling
Why let your children gain knowledge at home when you can send them to junior high school? Well, first you don’t sympathize with them if you need to wake them up at 6 each morning and take them to school with all sorts of directions or wait for the school bus that brings your kids home. Homeschooling your kids provides greater influence.
You, and you alone, can decide on what your children need to do and learn. Tailoring their general education to their interests and needs is one of the best and most obvious perks of homeschooling your children.
Character intentness is one more great benefit of homeschooling. For example, if your child needs more time to grasp math you can adjust the time she spends on that subject and, for example, reduce the time for English. We also published an interesting post on homeschool high school.
Educating your child will become a family activity, and mothers are encompassed in every step of the education. Your child will receive more quality time with the parents. The entire family shares projects, games, and chores and family closeness will be the focus. There will be no negative peer pressure when choices and decisions need to be made.
Competition elements will also decrease when you educate your children at home. Your kids don’t need to prove their aptitude and their self-confidence will enhance. You have the chance to mix difficult learning tasks with some fun activities. A tough algebra session can be followed by a visit to your local museum so the study course will become more pleasurable.
Homeschooling allows parents to better control their upstanding and churchgoing children and get to know their children better. They will be able to better incorporate their moral standards and ethical beliefs into their children’s core curriculum. Read also this post in case they need to take the GED test.
The American public school system has gotten a bad rap over the past decades and many parents believe that their young children are being pushed too little or too hard. The rules, the ethics, and lack of discipline at many public schools often do not align with the direction the parents want for their children. Homeschooling is often seen as a more convenient way to educate the children. After all, nobody can understand and stimulate your children better than yourself.
Home School Disadvantages
Although homeschooling has gained a following in the last 10 years, there are still plenty of advocates for public school ready and willing to provide their argument to their neighborhood mom that has decided to homeschool. As with any arguments, there are two sides. I’m not here to convince you one way or another but to educate you on the facts and let you decide for yourself.
It’s not so hard to figure out some of the concerns that could come with homeschooling. Here are the top 5 reason’s against homeschooling:
1. Lack of Social Interaction: This is the number one concern with homeschooling. We live in a social world and social skills are hugely important in being able to successfully go through life. Children who are isolated all day long in their homes with little social interaction risk not learning how to deal with other people different than them or even have a simple conversation.
2. Lack of Experiences: Although most of us wouldn’t go back to grade school if someone paid us, however, it these experiences out on the playground during recess, school dances and even the canned food drive were integral parts of what shapes kids in their developmental years. Homeschooled children are deprived of these experiences and it can negatively impact their developmental years.
3. Lack of Curriculum: Although there are very good homeschool materials, there’s no way a parent can create a full learning experience like a teacher can in a classroom with a wide variety of resources and their fingertips.
4. Lack of Certified Teachers: Parents are great teachers of life, but are they qualified to educate children. Teachers in public schools have gone through extensive education before they are allowed to teach children. Are parent’s qualified to effectively educate their children even though they have not been state-certified?
5. Lack of Criticism: When taught at home, children receive plenty of personalized attention, a curriculum that is taught at their learning level, and plenty of encouragement. One may think this is a fantastic environment to learn, however, what happens with the child leaves the nest? The real world will be a harsh reality when encouragement is not abundant, the pace of life does not configure to your needs, and your boss won’t have time to coddle you all day long. Are we really preparing our kids for life outside of the home?
When trying to decide whether or not homeschooling is right for you, its good to look at both sides of the fence. These are just a few of the arguments against homeschooling. These are some very relevant concerns, look at them, research them, and make the decision that’s right for you and your children.