We are living in an era where everyone wants to define each other. Where someone becomes your friend or follower on social media, and instantly they feel that they really know you. WRONG! Absolutely not! Here, let’s take a look at the importance of versatility!
Let me clarify, I am not saying that public or social media facades are not the way to go; however, just by adding someone on social media does not mean that you know their full story. Take it from someone who is a student, an avid reader, and a rap music connoisseur all at once. Contrary to popular belief, those two work very well together for me.
Often times, people want to lock me in a box and claim that I don’t have enough fun because I am reserved. Or maybe it’s that I am too angry because I call out white supremacy. Perhaps it is my favorite, I think I am “all that” because I speak fluently and clearly and I’m a good black student. However, most of the time these people don’t know me at all.
It is easy to get lost in the sauce and begin to believe whatever it is that you hear about yourself. However, the real answer building yourself up through self-care, self-love, and self-affirmation. The answer is simple, THRIVEEEE baby, THRIVE! There will always be someone on the sidelines waiting to spectate, but that should be motivation to give them, even more, to hate on.
My motto for myself is to be so versatile that no one is able to figure me out. My life goal is to maneuver in and out of spaces where I am not expected, to love the music I love, and to earn the degrees I want. Remember, it’s not the teacher that’s at the center of education, it’s YOU, the student. Keep that in mind! Even if you’re homeschooled, there are so many opportunities!
And if you think you cannot afford to go to college (like so many Black young people unfortunately do), think again! THRIVE! Just learn all about scholarships that are available these days, not only to black men and woman but, for example, for Hispanic girls as well!
Mainly because if you haven’t figured it out already, I am no one’s status quo and no one is yours! Life is too short to limit your own thinking and way of living based on the guilt that others impose on you. Life is certainly too short to care too much about the people praying on your downfall, even as a student. Now, if you quit high school prematurely, there still are many opportunities to get to college. Just get your GED and continue learning. I bet you won’t regret it!
What’s humorous in today’s society, is when a person calls out bigotry in a group of people, individuals in that particular group constantly try to avoid criticism and even lash out on the group that dared to correct them. In our academic world, we’re surrounded by visuals to enhance our learning experience and we should apply such resources as well in our day-to-day lives.
Of course, all groups of people do this, but not sufficiently, but now I’m going to talk about how Black men do it to Black women. The stereotype that the majority of Black fathers do not raise or acknowledge their children, isn’t true. It’s my academic field of study, my discipline. I’m working on my thesis about the subject so know what I’m talking about.
However, it would be foolish to ignore the ever-present problem of fatherless homes in the Black community. When a Black woman states that many Black men have failed the Black community and has created a generational curse, there is always an illogical response.
Granted, women should want to choose good men for significant others, but to blame a woman for getting pregnant with a mediocre man is ludicrous. There was a responsibility on the woman’s part, but that doesn’t excuse the wrongdoing of the man, in any situation. Fortunately, these days more and more black men are studying some sort of engineering field and, also, fortunately, there are great scholarships out there to support them.
Consensual sex with condoms and birth control can STILL lead to pregnancy and being promiscuous opens the door to the risks of pregnancy. The man is just as responsible as the woman and if the woman can find a top school to earn an online degree to get ahead in life, the man can do so too! Black men lift the responsibility off of deadbeat father’s by exclaiming “How would he know how to be a father if he didn’t have an example?”
No one knows how to be a perfect father, but abandoning the child is not the answer. Never! No one should have to teach a person how to have common decency, although I do believe positive influence helps set people in a good direction.
There needs to be a conversation with the Black female population about self-respect and have the courage to go for an accredited online academic degree and be successful in life but they’ll have to be extremely cautious to whom they let into their life because we live in a world that will blame them for falling in love and making human mistakes.